My actual question to her was "what do you consider Harry Potter fanfic canon?"

She said she could only make those choices for Harry/Snape and Harry/Draco, and these were her picks. She has some stories she doesn't particularly like (The Mirror of Maybe being one) that she considers canon because of their following.

I just wanted to avoid the label of "canon" on my post, which in my experience at least, could make people go a little nuts.