I don't expect a lot of good writing in fanfic, come to think of it. Most of us are just learning how to write. I find the fanon links to be an interesting cultural phenomenon, one story builds on another. I've actually noticed traits picked up from some of my more popular stories, and then other aspects picked up from those stories and so on. Fanon snowballs.
And more often than not, the writers are women who don't understand the male attitude.
Exactly. It's the same problem that exists with feminizing men's attitudes about penetration, where women think only penetration equals sex and don't get it: gay men consider blow jobs to be sex. Frottage to be sex. All kinds of things are sex. (Let's not even mention the impossible positions.)
Women also project feminine attitudes onto the male rape victim, and worse yet, the rescuer. The male lover/rescuer invariably has the calm warmth and understanding you could expect from a professional women's health rape clinic.
The reality is, the reason guys freak out a little about gay sex because they immediately visualize "tab A into slot B." They don't think "warm loving relationship," they think "specific sex act." So when the idea of male rape comes up, they instantly visualize the "tab A into slot B" with themselves as the victim -- and they freak.
Once they've calmed down a bit they're able to make soothing noises, but this tendency to be visual about sex makes a guy a lot less able to help his friend or lover.
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Date: 2005-11-03 02:06 am (UTC)And more often than not, the writers are women who don't understand the male attitude.
Exactly. It's the same problem that exists with feminizing men's attitudes about penetration, where women think only penetration equals sex and don't get it: gay men consider blow jobs to be sex. Frottage to be sex. All kinds of things are sex. (Let's not even mention the impossible positions.)
Women also project feminine attitudes onto the male rape victim, and worse yet, the rescuer. The male lover/rescuer invariably has the calm warmth and understanding you could expect from a professional women's health rape clinic.
The reality is, the reason guys freak out a little about gay sex because they immediately visualize "tab A into slot B." They don't think "warm loving relationship," they think "specific sex act." So when the idea of male rape comes up, they instantly visualize the "tab A into slot B" with themselves as the victim -- and they freak.
Once they've calmed down a bit they're able to make soothing noises, but this tendency to be visual about sex makes a guy a lot less able to help his friend or lover.
Icarus