one had to be a survivor in order to wrwite about such things
oh hay thar something that had been bothering me that I couldn't put a finger on until now.
I think it's a type of elitism and a way of saying that she, because she deals with these issues in her offline life, can determine the right way of talking/thinking/writing about these issues but the rest of us lowly fen cannot. That implication rankles, honestly, because it reeks of patronizing bullshit.
I'm not an incest survivor, but I have survived a lot of shit that I'm willing to bet most of the Fen has not. I guess according to her I get to tell the rest of the Fen the 'right' way to write about gang violence, getting shot, and war because I've experienced it up close and personal. This idea, to me, is abhorent. Mostly because I have problems talking coherently about what's happened to and around me. I like warfic and violent fic because it puts into words things inside of my head that I have trouble articulating. And if I don't like it, okay well there's the back button.
But somehow she is more specially and fragile and the rest of us have to 1) take care of how we write so we don;t hurt her fragile feelings, and 2) listen to her tell us how we ought to write because she knows better. That's crap.
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Date: 2007-06-10 01:27 pm (UTC)oh hay thar something that had been bothering me that I couldn't put a finger on until now.
I think it's a type of elitism and a way of saying that she, because she deals with these issues in her offline life, can determine the right way of talking/thinking/writing about these issues but the rest of us lowly fen cannot. That implication rankles, honestly, because it reeks of patronizing bullshit.
I'm not an incest survivor, but I have survived a lot of shit that I'm willing to bet most of the Fen has not. I guess according to her I get to tell the rest of the Fen the 'right' way to write about gang violence, getting shot, and war because I've experienced it up close and personal. This idea, to me, is abhorent. Mostly because I have problems talking coherently about what's happened to and around me. I like warfic and violent fic because it puts into words things inside of my head that I have trouble articulating. And if I don't like it, okay well there's the back button.
But somehow she is more specially and fragile and the rest of us have to 1) take care of how we write so we don;t hurt her fragile feelings, and 2) listen to her tell us how we ought to write because she knows better. That's crap.