Couple time and playing hookey (hookie?)

[icarus]

wildernessguru and I, feeling a little raw after the weekend, ran away from work and school today.

Okay, he already had the afternoon off for a dentist appointment and I blew off my (worthless) creative writing class to go with him. It turned out we had the day wrong, so we rescheduled and... had an afternoon free. An afternoon filled with Halloween costumes and trick or treaters. Little kids in perfect fireman costumes.

At first I thought I'd we'd "talk." Then I realized that's not what we needed right now.

So we went shopping.

WG loves to shop, especially at his favorite outdoor stores. Surrounded by sale racks, I hunted through bins of PolarMax ($30 PolarMax on sale for five bucks, no wonder he likes this place) while he tried things on in the dressing room, modeling for me. Quietly, in our own way, we healed, just enjoying each other's company.

Then we picked up "mystery photos" that turned out to be from Christmas five years ago. Tried to get haircuts but were driven away by a wait and really bad Musak. Drove around and enjoyed the costumes, the fall color and fading light. Went home and watched a movie together.

Breathing in, doing the Buddhist Sending and Receiving for him, I could tell that this weekend badly frightened him. I like to dig out problems, prod at them, fix them, even if it means bringing a lot of ugly stuff to light. But sometimes it's better to be gentle. Especially with wildernessguru. He's like Monte kitty. They both look like big, tough guys, but actually, they're rather delicate.

So we had chocolate cake.

Comments

[enname.livejournal.com]

I am going to presume that you two had a bad weekend?

Sounds like a nice way to at least get comfortable enough to be able to sit down and talk eventually. Somedays it is not talking that is needed, just co existing and doing routine things. Just being.

Bless his delicate heart. :)

[icarusancalion.livejournal.com]

Very tough weekend with deep, soul-searching questions. Yes, we'll talk, but not until his fears subside.

Icarus

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

I like to dig out problems, prod at them, fix them, even if it means bringing a lot of ugly stuff to light.

I do exactly the same thing...

But sometimes it's better to be gentle.

...And I'm grateful for this reminder. *hug*

[icarusancalion.livejournal.com]

*nods* Sometimes listening first is also good. He said something rather revealing this morning that clued me in to how scared he was.

Icarus

[hack-benjamin22.livejournal.com]

Chocolate cake can fix anything. It is the magical healing device that mends broken hearts and sadness.

[icarusancalion.livejournal.com]

Absolutely. *shares cake*

[harveywallbang.livejournal.com]

i too, dig at things and try to fix them... i'm slowly learning when not he and i shouldn't talk about things, and just be around eachother.
yay for chocolate cake.