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[icarus]

I'm achingly missing redgoldpride now. I've taken the better part of two days off from school.

Sigh. interimminister is getting in over his head.

Sigh.

My fics aren't moving.

Sigh. *wah* I miss Ron.

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Percy can't tell what's missing, but there's definitely a blank spot - miss you too.

[icarusancalion.livejournal.com]

Oh, nevermind. I'll just break it into two replies.

As for Doms sucking, everyone sucks. Without exception.

I've had scenes fall so flat, it's absurd. I start hearing the B-movie soundtrack. I can be really, really good. But I can suck so badly, it's just funny. And when I'm off, I'm off. I can't do it.

The trick is the recovery when you've been going fine and just had a shaky moment - or you're just gearing up, and it's not clicking yet.

I've recovered by just snickering and throwing out a B'movie line - "mwah-ha-ha!" Sure, it blows the scene, but you've already blown it so you might as well enjoy that part, too. Then you either get back into it, or spend the rest of the night giggling. Which is fine. Just roll with it.

One of my best scenes came out of a blown one. I was just so phony, doing this policewoman thing - I'm so tiny, it didn't fit. The guy was a foot taller than me and I was hyper-aware of it. So I started joking around, and pulled a deliberately fake German accent to go with the phony role, the police hat, riding crop and the mirrored sunglasses. The energy came back up (we were laughing). So I started berating him in German. I know a little. That solved the problem of my lines being stupid - he couldn't understand me! But he got the point, though I had to physically shove him onto the bed to get it across. Ah! Police brutality.

Most people when they suck have a hard time recovering (and the submissive feels like they have to act in order to rebuild their confidence, which is when it's really bad). They know they suck, then their confidence starts spiraling, like a guy with a limp dick who can't stop thinking about it. Then they slowly suck more and more.

Call it the death spiral.

It's because they're taking themselves too seriously. A dom projects that charisma when they're zeroed in on the rest of the room. Their attention isn't on themselves.



Icarus

Re: Percy can't tell what's missing, but there's definitely a blank spot - miss you too.

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Oh a sense of humour is crucial I agree. The most impressive Dom I ever saw in action though - the ex of an ex in fact (oh the joys of lesbian scenes) - never faltered once that I ever saw, not for a second.

But I wouldn't have gone with her. It just didn't look any fun. Then again, it was always a game for me, never really serious in the way some people are.